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Celebrating our LGBTQIA+ foster carers

Male same sex parentsWe want to take a moment to celebrate our LGBTQIA+ foster carers.

At Haringey, we welcome foster carers from all walks of life and with all sorts of life experiences and personal qualities. We believe that it’s your personal qualities that make you a great foster carer – not your gender or sexual orientation. 

As long as you are compassionate and can provide a stable environment for a child or young person, you’ve got what we’re looking for.

Hear from Alexander and James

At Haringey we are proud to have LGBTQIA+ families fostering with us, one of those families are Alexander and James.

We asked Alexander and James to share their thoughts with us on being foster carers.

As neither of us has had our own children, we didn't know how we'd handle some of the upcoming challenges, but we've learnt and grown from each situation. When our first child arrived, we were a little nervous but excited. We have seen the child who was our first placement a few times since he left our home and it's so wonderful to see him grow.

Commenting on whether they had encountered any prejudice, they responded:

We weren't sure how foster children would take to living in a same sex household, but it hasn't really been an issue at all. It has never been an issue to the children we are just James and Alex. When we tell others that we are foster carers, the response is always the same, "That's a wonderful thing to do, it must be challenging!". Everyone is always so supportive.

Alexander and James also shared their thoughts on being a foster carer for Haringey Council:

The team at Haringey Council is full of kind and generous people. We've had a number of social workers over the years, but all have been lovely to work with. Haringey offered a lot of support and training, Alex’s favourite was Trauma and Attachment.

Alexander and James have this advice to those wondering if fostering is for them:

Fostering is the most rewarding experience, we've loved every moment of it. Bear in mind it will be stressful and challenging at times. Don't let the fact you are in a same-sex relationship get in the way of your application; it really doesn't cause an issue!

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Get in touch

Here at Haringey, we always try to make the application process go as smoothly as possible. We understand that this decision was not taken lightly, and we are always available to answer any questions you have.

As soon as you start the application process, you have a dedicated supporting social worker to help you through the process.

We would be delighted for you to get in touch with us to find out more about how you can make a difference to a child’s life in Haringey. If you are interested in becoming a foster carer or would like to find out more, please complete our dedicated e-form or call us on 0208 489 3754.

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Page last updated:

September 20, 2021