For advice and guidance call the Whittington Health Shhout Services appointments and advice line 020 8442 6536.
- Let’s talk about sex
- Safe Talk
- Emergency contraception
- Come Correct free condoms
- Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea self testing
- Safe Relationships
- Youth Space
- Helpful links
It’s difficult to know if you’re ready to have sex. You may be if:
- Having sex is for you, and not because your partner or friends say you should
- You know how to use contraception correctly
- You understand the options available to you if you or your partner gets pregnant
- You can openly discuss sex without embarrassment
Remember, you never have to do any sexual act, even kissing, if you don’t feel ready. Even if you do feel ready remember that you can have fun with someone without going all the way. Kissing, cuddling and fondling can often be just as enjoyable and intimate as penetrative sex.
It really helps if you get to know your own body first. Then you can guide your partner towards your favourite bits, and show them what to do when they get there! The more you know about your body, the more you can look after it and use it healthily.
Also remember that your body is not perfect, and it can react in strange and surprising ways. Lots of young people hype sex up, and you might find yourself getting anxious before you do it. Stress and sex don’t mix well, so try not to put pressure on yourself.
If sex doesn’t go as planned (and it often doesn’t) try and see the funny side of it. Don’t torture yourself and obsess on the negatives. People can spend their whole lives trying to get sex right!
SafeTalk are sexual health school nurses providing a free, confidential and friendly service for young people under 19 who live or study in Haringey.
- Jennifer 07989 852 976
- Louise 07870 572 709
- Email: whh-tr.SafeTalkNurses@nhs.net
- Safe Talk Nurses Poster (PDF, 172KB)
Emergency Hormonal Contraception (EHC) can be used if a young woman has had sex without using contraception, or thinks their contraception hasn’t worked.
EHC, also known as the ‘morning after pill’ can usually prevent pregnancy if taken within 72 hours (3 days) of having had sex. It is more effective if started within the first 24 hours.
- Young women under 25 can get free EHC from many pharmacies across Haringey. A list of all pharmacies offering this service can be found in the Need help now? section
Young people under 25 can get free condoms in Haringey and across London.
Register for the Come Correct (C-Card) scheme in Haringey to get free condoms, advice and guidance at outlets across the borough to help you have safe sex.
You will get reminders when to see a health professional, or make an appointment at a clinic.
Use your C-Card to get contraception and free advice from any pharmacy displaying the Come Correct logo, (see full list of pharmacies on the Need help now? page) or from the following:
- The Junction at Wood Green Library, N22 - every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, 2pm-5pm
- 10 Bruce Grove Youth Centre, Bruce Grove, N17 6RA - Monday-Friday, 4pm-8pm
- Wood Green Skills Hub, White Hart Lane, N22 5QW - Friday, 4pm-8pm
For free condoms in other parts of London see the C-Card website (external link)
First Date Video
A video made by Exposure about the Come Correct London C-Card free condom scheme for young people in Haringey and across London and shows how to use a condom, lube, female condoms and dams and promotes a healthy and safe sex life.
The ‘pee in a pot’ test is now simple for both men and women, and with one in ten people estimated to have Chlamydia, there is more reason than ever to have regular tests.
Free testing postal kits are available from participating pharmacies listed under the Need help now? section. Chlamydia self testing kits are also available from the Check Urself website (external link).
Relationships are an essential part of everyone’s life – we all need someone to talk to, someone to hold, and someone to love. However this need can make it difficult to see if your relationship is healthy.
A healthy relationship is when a partner listens to you, encourages you to do things you enjoy. They trust and believe you, and tell you the truth. They are fair in an argument and never become aggressive towards you when angry.
An unhealthy relationship is typically one that involves abuse. No one has the right to subject you to any kind of harm, or expect you to do something that you don’t want to do. There are different types of abuse, so it is not always easy to tell if you, or someone you know, is being subjected to abusive behaviour.
- Verbal abuse is when someone says something to hurt you. This may be calling you names, or saying something that they know is painful for you to hear, or makes you feel bad.
- Emotional abuse is when someone uses their position in your relationship to gain power over you. This may include persistent calling and checking up, or stopping you from doing something that you want to do.
- Physical abuse is when someone intentionally hurts you with physical contact; even a pinch could be considered physical abuse.
- Financial abuse is when someone prevents their partner from having any say or control over their money and victims can become trapped.
- Sexual abuse is being forced or pressured to take part in sexual activity including unwanted touching, ‘sexting’ (texting sexual images), being forced to watch or be involved in pornography or sexual bullying.
- Rape is an act of sexual violence and domination and is when someone is forced to have any kind of sex - vaginal, anal or oral – without consent. Rape carries a maximum of a life sentence in prison.
For more information on relationship, domestic and gender based violence visit:
- Domestic Violence section
- This is abuse website (external link)
- Respect website (external link)
- Lesbian and Gay Foundation (external link)
For more information on sexual health services and wellbeing, as well as lots of other useful information for under 25s, visit the Youth Space website (external link).
Sexual health and pregnancy
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT)
Drugs and alcohol, substance misuse
Mental health/emotional wellbeing
- Open Door Counselling service website (external link)
- Childline (external link)
- Young Minds - Mental Health and wellbeing (external link)
Information and support concerning self harming
- The Site - advice and support for young people (external link)
- Young Minds - Mental Health and wellbeing (external link)
- Support for young people impacted by self-harm (external link)
Sex and Relationship Education (SRE)
Sex Education Forum
Personal Social Health Education (PSHE)
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